Tuesday, January 13, 2009

so

So, I have been thinking about a conversation I had with a friend a year ago. I do these sorts of things. Go over old conversations in my head thinking about what I should have said. It's just one of my many neurosis and I have learned to just roll with it.

Anyway, I had just started my blog and she was saying how she likes to read blogs, but she rarely comments. At the time, I readily agreed with her. Why should a person have to comment on every blog they read? What if you really don't have much to say on the topic? Why the pressure?

Damned needy bloggers! Get over yourselves! (I spit in the dirt for emphasis!)

However, I am finding that not unlike casserole recipes from the 70's, humble pie is a regular menu item that keeps cropping up around here. I've got the pudgy thighs and bitter aftertaste to prove it.

There have been times, over the last year, that I have poured my heart out into a blog post only to be meet with silence. It feels a little like I have told an offensive joke at one of my parent's dinner parties. Crickets chirp, throats are cleared.

I was fine until I added a sitemeter which educated me on just how many people don't have anything to say in response to my ramblings. It is really quite absurd how many of you keep returning to my spot here on the internet only to LURK.

So I'm calling you out. Olli olli oxen free!!!! Today is national de-lurking day. Really. They have a day for it. It seems I'm not the only chagrined blogger out there.

Especially you, Miss Finland! The lurking has got to stop.



23 comments:

wendy said...

This is my second comment on your blog. OK fine - I admit, I am needy!! insecure, paronid that no one will ike me --my therapist is working on these things. I guess when you leave a comment, but no one comments on yours, you feel like your in school again and people are choosing teams, while you humbly stand there trying to look very cool---you are the LAST on picked. WHY AM I ALWAYS LAST, WHY - gotta go, my therapy session is in an hour. (and ps it does help that you left a comment for me today, I feel a little tear falling)

Michelle said...

I have been a slacker commenter lately. It is due to complete laziness. I have been reading through bloglines and you can't comment from there. I will try to be better.



P.S. I won a raffle of yours some time back and I posted my address here so you could send the prize to me but I never received it. I don't know if you got my address or not. If it's just because life is crazy and then the holidays came, then no worries. I just didn't want you to think I never sent you my address to claim my prize.

It was the birthday banner from Storia Homa, by the way :) Love them.

scrappermg@cox.net

april said...

Michelle-
I did get your address and I passed it along to Storia Home. I will contact her again and see if she shipped it. Will you resend me your address?

kiddlebug said...

When I got my sitemeter, I forgot to attach it to my blog. I was getting the reports of 0 visits and feeling terribly disappointed....then embarrassed when I figured out what I had done wrong.

Elizabeth said...

I do believe that I've already commented, but here's another one. The photos are stupendous -- I love the design of your blog. I'm the first of three sisters and I love the name of your blog. And I look forward to many more posts! There, how's that?

Kari said...

I know exactly how you feel.

Laura said...

Well, you already know how I feel on this topic....

Debbie said...

I truly enjoy your writings and never left a comment because I could never be as eloquent as you!

clare b said...

Ok, Ok, Ok... i am getting a bit lazy on that one... Will be a little more diligent in future. LOL

julie said...

I am still coming back regularly. :)
I think it is also important, that you answer on the comments! Than readers will see they are important, you read them and you want a contact with them. They need response as well. {my opinion}
Anyway I completely understand you!
And we love your blog!!

Dan and Katie said...

somehow you found my twitter yesterday, and in lurking you out i came across this blog and read it to see if i knew you.
i don't (forgive me if i do!) but i sure do want to.
you're the kind of woman i want to be, the kind of woman i'm just now learning how to become.
i'm a newlywed, nyc transplant from the chilly state of michigan, and passionate admirer of all things handmade and lovely.
so.
i'm commenting.
i can't wait to keep reading, too.

stephanie said...

first time visitor after reading about your adventures in Thailand with Tara Whitney, photographer extraordinaire. I'll be sure to stop back, and comment, again!

Renee said...

Ok,ok,I'm out.I love your blog, which I found through Emily's, of course! I love your jewelry & I like how I'm able to see them on the sidebar..I have dial up so having the pictures change automatically without me having to click through pages & pages of stuff makes me very appreciative!I would also love to know who Miss Finland is or maybe it's a he? ;)Ok, seeing all that beautiful jewelry flashing on the side is torture...going to see all of them & start dreaming. :)If you'd like to be my new friend, I'd be happy to have one as I really don't get comments on my blog...but it's rather boring right now,but please stop by and say hi & I'lll comment back...I promise! :) Renee

Amy said...

Here I am!!!! LOL

~Michelle~ said...

Not that its a good excuse, but I read thru Google Reader, and don't always take the time (read: I'm lazy) to comment every post...that would be a full time job right there! But we (the lurkers) are out there, thinking of you ;)

bethtrue said...

I'm a lurker but then again I just recently stumbled across your blog from reading about Tara Whitney's adventure in Thailand and enjoying the beautiful photos. I'm enjoying your blog and am now reading via Google Reader, which makes it more of an effort to click through to your actual blog to read and comment. Or at least that's my excuse. :-)

Brittany said...

I am guilty of lurking. I love your blog, but I didn't feel comfortable leaving comments since I had never met you (and I'm a little insecure that way). Now that I met you at Jenny's maybe I will try to leave comments sometimes.

Laura said...

I think this may be comment #2 from me. BTW, thanks for fixing my bracelet.... am wearing it now!

I rarely comment, but maybe I can try harder. ;)

Digital Misfit said...

I admit to being a lazy commenter. I do try to pop up once in awhile so I dont seem creepy.

btw - I am also completely neurotic about going over old conversations/situations and reliving embarrassing yet simple situations that I am sure the other party has long since forgotten.

Apryl said...

I know I tell you all the time how much I enjoy your blog...but I guess a few comments here and there wouldn't hurt! You are such an amazing person! I am grateful to be able to call you my friend.

Jerusalem said...

here I am! days late and comments short...but here still! love your profile pic. very cool.

Amy @ Park City Girl said...

love that you stand up and say what the rest of us don't :)

Katherine said...

I am one of those insecure commenters. I feel like if it isn't a fantastic response, I should just keep my trap shut. Especially if it is a heartfelt, well-written blog post. Sometimes all I can come up with is, "Wow". But that rarely seems to do the author justice. So, I don't say anything.
More than anything I am often curious about people I see popping in regularly. I mean they read about my life, everyday, so here goes....
I am Katherine from Arizona. I come to your blog to see cool stuff, and because I like the way you write.